16 Apr 2016

LOBATAN: Celebs without endorsement deals



Nothing defines the big league in Nigeria’s competitive entertainment industry as a mouth-watering endorsement deal a celebrity is offered.

Analysing the Wizkid and Linda Ikeji drama in eight points



Analysing the Wizkid and Linda Ikeji drama in 8 points
The entertainment industry in Nigeria has seen a number of beefs and social media dramas over time. However, not in a long while have we seen such a long-lasting face-off as the one between Linda Ikeji and an A-list singer. We run

Pope brings 12 refugees to Rome after Lesbos visit



Declaring “we are all migrants,” Pope Francis visited the Greek island of Lesbos on Saturday with a message of hope for those seeking asylum in Europe and a stinging rebuke for those who closed their hearts to the desperate.

Military opens camp for repentant Boko Haram members



The authorities of the Armed Forces have opened a camp for repentant members of the Boko Haram Sect.

The Acting Director, Defence Information, Col. Rabe Abubakar, told our correspondent on the telephone on Saturday that the military authorities had not disclosed where the camp was located for security reasons.

2016 Budget: Presidency sends list of ‘grey areas’ to N’Assembly



The Presidency and the National Assembly inched towards resolving the controversies surrounding the 2016 budget on Friday following alleged “fruitful exchange of ideas” between Vice-President Yemi Osinbajo and the Speaker of the House of Representatives, Mr. Yakubu Dogara.

NDLEA arrests woman who faked pregnancy with wraps of cocaine



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The National Drug Law Enforcement Agency on Saturday arrested a woman at the Murtala Muhammed International Airport, Lagos, who faked pregnancy with wraps of substances suspected to be cocaine.

OMG: What robbers did to Nollywood actress at night in Lagos



Actress Jennifer Eliogu recounts experience with robbers in LagosNollywood actress Jennifer Eliogu recounts experience with robbers in Lagos – The actress lost cash and other valuables from the incident – The movie star has been traumatized ever since the attack but she is grateful to God for life On

15 types of pastors you will see in Nigeria



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There are thousands of churches in Nigeria and their pastors all differ in character, dressing and what they preach about. While some Nigerian pastors are concerned about leading sinners to Christ, others are more interested in making money. Nigerians are a very religious set of people and a good number of them

8 reasons why Nigerian men in America kill their wives



It is somewhat generally believed that one of the biggest achievements of men and women alike, is when they are domiciled abroad and are working or at least have permanent sources of income.
The expectation thereof would be that the couples with such working statuses ought to be fulfilled and happy together. But that is not often the case in some homes in the United States.
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The February 2016 case of a 49-year-old Muhammadu Ighomigho who committed suicide after shooting to death his 44-year-old ex-wife, Nnenna Ogbonna, in the state of Maryland, is one of those catastrophes taking place in the United States. Such tragic end is not unconnected with the reasons which are discussed below:

OGUN DE BODE: #NotOurSenatePresident Trends On Twitter (See Snapshots)



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For some reasons, a hash tag #NotOurSenatePresident that was created and promoted by APC loyalist on twitter to spite and create hatred against the president of the Nigeria Senate went south,

KENNETH OKONKWO PAYS OBAMA A VISIT AT THE WHITE HOUSE (PHOTOS



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Only few people with high status get this kind of opportunity of getting into the power house of the United States government which is the White House and one of Nigeria’s own got the privilege.
Nollywood actor, Kenneth Okonkwo, was the privilege fellow who got the opportunity of visiting the White House and seeing it as an achievement of sort; he attributed it to God paving way for him.
In his words, “Straight from the white house!!! It's been God's doing.”

9JA NO BE ISE AYE OO? RAT FOUND IN PATIENTS BELLY DURING OPERATION



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Seriously, Nigerians are still wondering how come a rat manages to enter a man’s stomach and he has been carrying it for a while without knowing rather he had a protruded belly.
A certain Nigerian man in Abia state, had a dead rat removed from his stomach after a successful operation was carried out on him at the Royal Cross Methodist Hospital, Ugwueke on Thursday April 14.

TOYIN AIMAKHU LOOKING NICE AFTER SEUN EGBEGBE WITHDREW HER BODY GUARD (PHOTOS)



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Ose, see fine girl. Nollywood actress, Toyin Aimakhu, is not joking at all with her beauty despite the various scandals trailing her personality.
Maybe she does not care about her personality though but rather than sit and allow various insultive words from her ex-lover, Seun Egbegbe got into her; the actress is busy having fun of her life.

SA MUSICIAN, OSKIDO DENIES ATTACKING D’BANJ



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Popular South African beat maker and singer, Oskido, was in a messy scandal earlier today when a message was sent out through his phone indicating his hatred for Nigerian singer, D’banj.
The message states that D’banj has been disrespecting himself and others and that was not the first time he was doing that.

419 Fayose Scam: Top 5 Proofs That Fayose Never Address Anyone Or Sign Anything (pics)



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1.There are no files or papers with him to suggest that he is delivering any speech.I dont think he is not intelligent enough to address a business community without a written speech..
2.If Fayose assignment is official..how come only one underage guy followed him...where are his commissioners or assembly members.

Yeyeluwa of Ife Imperial Empress of The Yoruba People



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Iwalewa awo Apesin lodifa fun Yeyeluwa tiise Ayaba Oonirisa ti yio fi iwapele tun Ife se; kope kojina, e wa wo Ifa awo ki bo ti n se. { ‘Beauty is Virtue’ the confidant of the ‘Adored-Head’ divine the Oracle for YEYELUWA that’s the

Five Nigerian Girls Share The Horrible Things Guys Did To Them



I spoke to five of my female friends last week and asked them to share the worst thing a guy has done to them and what i heard sent shivers down my spine. Honestly, I didn’t expect a guy to stoop so low in order to score cheap points with a girl. These guys do not deserve to

My Story – I Am So Worried, My Pastor Mistakenly Sent A Photo Of His Pe*is To Me On WhatsApp



A church member has been left worried and confused after his pastor mistakenly sent him a photo of him holding his m*****d on WhatsApp.

26 Nigerian Musicians With Very Similar Stage Names (PHOTOS)



It is not like Nigerian musicians have ran out of stagenames to give themselves but anyhow as the case may be, some of them have very similar stage names.
Let’s take a look at those Musicians
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TOP 10 ACTRESSES INVOLVED IN SECOND-JOURNEY MARRIAGE (PHOTOS)



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In the Nigeria entertainment industry today, the holy institution of marriage has been desecrated. It is now a common trend that most celebrities no longer give a second thought before dumping husbands for another depending on what the new ones have to offer.

This Guy Disappeared Just A Month To His Wedding



It was December 2013. When Nigerians were preparing to end the year on a high note, the family of 36yrs old Dantala Da’u, was ending the year in a limbo; one caused by the mysterious disappearance of the young man, while on his way to Lagos to deliver cement.

Fertility test goes messy: Woman narrates how a doctor raped her during Fertility Test



I find this tale very strange! How can a man insert his pen is inside you and you don’t know he’s there until he’s about to eja cu late? That’s what a patient is claiming in a police report filed against a doctor in Lagos state. But then, stranger things have happened. Read the report below from Sunnewsonline

Why Women Cheat And How To Prevent It



There are a lot of women that do not cheat on their partners. If they are happy with their partner and secure in their relationship, it is unlikely that most women will stray.
That being said, some women do cheat and there are some specific occasions where they are more likely to do it.

Billionaire Adenuga's Son & His Babymama Fighting Because He Refused To Marry Her



Guys, it's always a problem having babymamas these days, just be ready for quarrels and fights...
An Igbosere Magistrate’s Court in Lagos has granted custody rights to Eniola, son of billionaire businessman, Mike Adenuga, over his 16-month old daughter.

How to avoid getting distracted by boys/men (Iv)



Dear Aunty Temilolu,

I am a graduate of Electrical Electronics Engineering and I had a distinction. I read some of your articles in Saturday Punch newspaper and I thank God for the wisdom he has bestowed upon you. I would be so glad if you would accept to be my mentor.

GBA KADARA RESIGN: Again, Saraki loses bid to stop corruption trial



A Federal High Court in Abuja on Friday dismissed the suit filed by the Senate President, Dr. Bukola Saraki, to stop his trial on charges of false asset declaration before the Code of Conduct Tribunal in Abuja.

HURRAY: China trip yields over $6bn investments, says Buhari



Amid criticisms of his frequent overseas trip, President Muhammadu Buhari, on Friday, expressed satisfaction that his just-concluded one week official trip to China had yielded over $6bn additional investments for Nigeria.

My madam opened my legs and poured pepper in my ‘thing’– Housemaid, 8, brutalised for stealing food



The police in Lagos on Monday took into custody, a 40-year-old trader, Mrs. Deborah Gabriel, who brutalised her housemaid, eight-year-old Glory Ugbon, and then put pepper in the girl’s eyes and private part when the girl decided to steal a plate of rice when she was hungry.

ICPC seizes 61 houses from female civil servant



The Independent Corrupt Practices and Other Related Offences Commission says it has begun arresting civil servants who live beyond their means, adding that it seized 61 houses from one female public servant.

HAHAHA: Top 5 strange reasons why young men date older women



Relationship trends are changing by the day, strange variations of relationships are emerging and the world is ready to pitch its tent on any idea which it feels an extra ounce of comfort.

We know madness when we see one – Nigerians drag Fayose to the mud over ‘fake’ China lecture



Governor Ayodele Fayose has been lampooned over pictures of him supposedly addressing Chinese businessmen was made public.
The pictures showed the Ekiti state governor at a podium in China delivering a lecture to investors. However, a close inspection of the supposed lecture hall indicated that it was a train terminal and a silly attempt to fool Nigerians.

17-year-old girl boyfriend planned to use for money rituals escapes



A 17-year-old Senior Secondary 2 (SS2) student, Ruth Alabi, narrowly escaped being killed for money rituals when her boyfriend lured her to a herbalist’s residence at Olodo area of Ibadan before she was rescued by vigilante men.
Ruth Alabi, who claimed to be an SS2 student at an undisclosed school in Abuja, said she came to spend the Easter holiday with her mother in Ibadan when the incident occurred.

10 Serious Mistakes Men Make During A foreplay on Bed



When it comes to what women want in bed, men tend to make serious avoidable mistakes like these

While you may give yourself pep talks before a lazy encounter or pat yourself on the back after a great time in bed, don't be too smug about knowing what women want. A recent survey suggests that most men are not the skillful lovers they think themselves to be. When it comes to the fundamentals, men tend to make some serious mistakes in the sack. Here are the 10 avoidable ones.

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Five Reasons Not To Apply To A UK University



You have probably seen the adverts on Linda’s blog and newspapers and you thinking may be its time to go and study

Economic crisis: Churches groan as tithes, offerings drop

Some of the churches claim they are helping some of their members financially this period
It is no longer news that Nigerians are experiencing an economic downturn at the moment
 – The situation has also affected Christian places of worship
– The situation has reduced the financial commitments to members towards the church A report by The Punch has chronicled how churches are experiencing

SA musician Oskido comes for DBanj on instagram



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Do not know what caused the calling out but he shared it today on IG. Oscar Bonginkosi Mdlongwa, popularly known by his stage name– Oskido,

What Yemi Alade said about her alleged secret lover



Yemi Alade reacts to allegations surrounding her love life.Yemi Alade reacts to allegations of her secret romance with Nigerian celebrity – The Nigerian pop singer adds that her relationship is private and she prefers to leave it thus Buzzing pop singer

Football rules: Minister ignorant — Bassey



DalungPaul Bassey is one of the very few Nigerians who knows football and understands its rules and statutes.

WAHALA WA OO: The budget war



File: Buhari during the 2016 budget presentation to the National Assembly.The budget war between the presidency and the legislative branches of the Federal Government may have panicked many political stakeholders; especially partisans of the All Progressives Congress, APC. File: Buhari during the 2016 budget presentation to the National Assembly. The fact that the two branches of government are wholly controlled by the party would indicate a measure of laxity on the part of the party in its control of its members. That the National Assembly and the presidency would go into open warfare to project their claims of propriety on the budget would indicate a lack of consensus in the party hierarchy on its manifesto. It is not as if budget fights are anything new. Since the advent of the Fourth Republic spats over the budget had become a recurring decimal in the relationships between the National Assembly and the presidency. In fact, it was believed by some that after the pitched battles between the National Assembly and the Goodluck Jonathan administration that nothing worse could have come. But now, the APC has seemingly put a lie to that. The fights of the Jonathan administration were, however, notably concealed by the tact and tenacity of the administration’s legislative liaison, Senator Joy Emodi. The House of Representatives in that period was especially trenchant, and there were times when the legislators were said to have gone on retreats in hotels in the quieter areas of Abuja, notably in the Maitama area to plot against the administration. In the midst of their plotting, the legislators were often amazed to find Mrs. Emodi strolling into their midst to disarm them. It is a pity that the present administration has not constituted an adequate response team to navigate its ideas in the parliament. Even its leg man in the Senate, Senator Ita Enang, a former senator who ordinarily should be able to navigate all issues is, however, challenged by local politics. He is one of the leading critics of the former governor of the state who incidentally is the leader of the opposition in the Senate, Senator Godswill Akpabio. That is, however, not to remove the insidious role of the Senate and House committees on appropriation. The devious roles of the committees in orchestrating the face-off between the legislature and the presidency is particularly regrettable. But as one former senator reminded this correspondent, it is nothing new. Stopping truancy in the House of Representatives It was apt that a member of the House of Representatives, Rep. Asabe Villitas brought a motion last Thursday on the second anniversary of the bestial kidnap of more than 200 female students from a government school in Chibok, Borno State to the floor. Reflective of the solemn anniversary, Speaker Yakubu Dogara and some members donned red fez caps depicting the fate of the 219 missing girls. Provocative comments were also made by some members, most memorably, Nnena Ukeje, Onyemachi Mrakpor, Abdussamad Dasuki among others. However, the sombreness of the occasion was seriously defiled by the general indifference by nearly everyone else that did not speak on that occasion. The chamber was not just less than a quarter of the members present. As concerned members spoke on the issue some with passion, most of the other members could be seen chatting in groups, laughing and some walking about lackadaisically. As the debate on the motion progressed the whip repeatedly sought to quieten the noise that emanated from the indifferent legislators. It is a serious indictment of the chamber which at one time portrayed itself as the conscience of the people of Nigeria. Given the seriousness with which some other legislative houses in the world including the United States Congress have taken the cause of the Chibok girls, it is rather lamentable that the majority of Nigerian legislators have yet to show passion and pain on the issue. But kudos to those legislators who identified with our missing girls on that day. Dalung’s dangerous dive into football politics Almost every concerned stakeholder is now having to question the propriety of the appointment of Mr. Solomon Dalung as the minister of sports given concerns that he may dip our football and other sports to the point of irrelevance. His actions in the House of Football have been particularly suspicious. When the minister called stakeholders to a “peace” meeting between Mr. Amaju Pinnick and Mr. Chris Giwa, many people smelt a rat given the fact that nearly everyone with the notable exceptions of Giwa and perhaps Dalung had put the schemes of the former administration to foist Giwa on the Football Federation behind. Pinnick, whether you like him or not, had been officially recognised as the president of the Nigerian Football Federation, NFF. The fact that Giwa is from Dalung’s Plateau State has not helped matters. Mr. Dalung should be seen to act above board in keeping the NFF united.  


My grandson’s killer may come after us- 64-year-old grandmother cries out



The wounded grandma, Madam BabalolaA 64-year-old grandmother, Madam Mary Babalola, whose grandson, Oluwasun Babalola, aged 16 was killed after a gang of armed hoodlums invaded her shop at Idi-Araba area of Lagos State, has raised alarm that the suspected leader of the gang who is now in police net may come for other members of the family should the police fail to prosecute him. Late OluwasunLate Oluwasun How the attack was carried out The visibly worried grandmother who was still nursing the wounds she sustained during the attack told Crime Guard in her residence at Ilasamanja area of Lagos State that the arrested suspect, Wasiu Akinwande, a.k.a Oloriesho, in February 2015, led a gang of armed hoodlums to her shop, located at Aborishade, off Idi-Araba area of the State, and they opened fire on her, her grandson and some other residents of the area. She explained that her grandson who was studying for his Senior Secondary Certificate Examination, SSCE, at the shop, was killed on the spot, while she sustained a bullet wound on her knee adding that another man opposite her shop, was also killed during the attack. Appeals to Gov. Ambode and CP Lagos While calling on the Lagos State Governor, Akinwumi Ambode and the State Commissioner of Police, Fatai Owoseni, to ensure that the killers of her son pay for their crimes, Babalola said she has been bedridden since the incident occurred. “I can’t walk any more. The bullet shattered the bones on my knees and since I left the hospital, I have been bedridden.” She stated. Flash back Giving a vivid account of the attack, Madam Babalola Said; “I was in my shop with my grandson who was studying for his SSCE exams at about 7: pm, when the hoodlums attacked the area. I saw Oloriesho in front with a silver pistol and I did n’t know who he was because I haven’t set eyes on him before. The next was sound of gunshots and there was confusion everywhere. While I tried to run, I fell and discovered that I have been shot. When the boys left, people around that area came to rescue me and took me to the hospital. How I heard news of my grandson’s death The wounded grandma, Madam Babalola “After the incident, I asked after my grand son and I was told he was fine. Nobody told me he was killed during the attack until after nine months. They told me that he was shot on his head during the attack and his corpse was found under a bus close to my shop. All this while I have prayed and waited for justice for my grandson and I am glad that the man who led the attack has been arrested. I am a poor woman but I hope the governor and the Commissioner of police will ensure I get justice.” She pleaded Hunt for the leader of the gang Crime Guard gathered that before his arrest, operatives at the D9 section of the State Criminal Investigations Department, SCID, Panti, Yaba, Lagos, trailed Oloriesho to his hideout at Mosalashi Street, in Mushin area of the State where there was a shoot out between the operatives and some hoodlums who attempted to prevent policemen from arresting the suspect. Police sources revealed that Oloriesho, has been on the police wanted list for long following several gang- related killings and other violent crimes around Mushin and its environs Recruitment and exploits The source further revealed that Oloriesho and his gang were recruited in 2009 by a faction of National Union of Road Transport Workers, NURTW, which was involved in a battle of supremacy against their opponents and that Oloriesho and his gang had carried out several killings around Toll gate, Idi-Oro, New Balogun, Ogunjobi and Railway areas of Mushin before his arrest. His alleged criminal record, according to sources, showed that five members of his gang were arrested by the SCID operatives in January 2016 and an Ak47 belonging to the police which was snatched from a policeman murdered at Daleko area of Isolo, Lagos, was recovered from the suspect. The source further revealed that since his arrest, there have been no news of violent clashes or killings within Mushin area and to make sure they achieve a lasting peace in the area, the operatives went all out for Olorisho because he was the leader of the gang that had been terrorizing Mushin and its environs in Lagos.


Why sex makes the world go round



SexHave you ever wondered why there is so much talk about sex in the 21st century? Everything about a life is linked to sex and the woman. She is a poet’s dream. An artist’s impression. The lyrics of a successful male musician. The dance steps of a skilled instrumentalist and a photographer’s imagination. Her body is always dissected under the male purview. It has often been said: Woman is a necessary evil; a desirable calamity and a domestic peril. Love her or hate her, you cannot simply do without her. And you have often asked the question, what’s on a man’s mind? In this 21st century, the world is awash with a pandemic of sexual issues and the popular media over-emphasize scintillating topics as celebrity wardrobes, lifestyle of the rich, the famous and the infamous. The fashion magazines are filled with who’s hot, sexy, sassy, sensual, stimulating and scintillating. The moralists are reading the hard newspapers and magazines with fashion magazines of sexy, half-nude celebrities hidden in the centres. It’s all about the woman and her body. Fashion and celebrity magazines , known for  its notoriously racy covers and highly sexualized content are high-selling and boast of high readership. Sex is everywhere: Music videos, movies, reality shows, ads, online porn, prostitutes in video games. The more sexual content kids watch and listen to, the earlier they’re likely to have sex themselves. Music, video games, and the Internet are also filled with sexually explicit, often-degrading messages that can shape kids’ attitudes about sex Sex is also reductive; it reduces humanity to something very basic, primal – the opposite, perhaps, of the civilised, social selves we present to the world. It’s about the relationship between the biological and the social, the animal and the human. Sex is the id that pushes man to war. This means that there is much potential for tragedy when it comes to sex. If it is the seat of our hidden, suppressed selves, it is by its very nature where we are most vulnerable. The potential for disaster – for hurt, pain, exposure, suffering, guilt, shame, etc. is huge. A research shows that teens’ main source of information about sex, dating and sexual health comes from what they see and hear in the media. Experts say that the media can be an effective sex educator when it includes specific information on birth control methods and sexually transmitted diseases. From many indications, teens think watching TV with a lot of sexual content influences their peers’ behaviour somewhat or a lot. On average, music videos contain 93 sexual situations per hour, including 11 hard-core scenes depicting behaviour like intercourse and oral sex. The current female teenager wants to be like Kylie Jenner and wears her pouts. The Kardashians are the fastest selling reality show in the world and the twenty-first century young woman follows the Kardashian/Jenner story like a religion. Kim Kardashian or Kylie Jenner would break the internet any day. And what is about them? Sex. Hot sex enshrined in a family. Cosmopolitan magazine has won several awards as the fastest selling glossy magazine .The magazine, and in particular its cover stories, have become increasingly sexually explicit in tone, and covers have models wearing revealing clothes. It was well known for sexual explicitness, with strong sexual language, male nudity and coverage of such subjects as rape. The magazine currently features topics including sex, relationships, beauty, fashion and health. Cosmopolitan  has 64 international editions worldwide published in 35 languages with distribution in more than 100 countries making  Cosmopolitan  the largest-selling young women’s magazine in the world. What keeps the magazine going was the sex talk. Many strong magazines and newspapers across the globe have closed shop and others have ended up with only online publishing. They stopped doing well but magazines like Cosmopolitan  and  Playboy will continue to rule the world because of their contents. Africa is not different. In Nigeria, the soft-sell magazines are the ultimate and men read them hidden inside the newspapers. They stare on the half-naked bodies of Nollywood girls and fashion models while pretending to be reading the serious stories about politics and the economy. They watch online porn in their laptops and phones while they pretend to work on the serious stuff. Sex and the girl child Most thoughts about girls are all about sex. Girls often face pressures to engage in sexual activity. Girls are more vulnerable than boys to the consequences of unprotected and premature sexual relations. All the talk about sweet sixteen is about young girls and sex. The young men in their peer groups talk about girls, what they wear and their beautiful faces. When they see one, they size up her entire body features and get her enshrined in their minds to lust about later in the confines of their beds in the night. From 1998 to the present time, the number of sexual scenes on TV has quadrupled. One in five children will be approached by a sexual predator online. 15-to 24-year-olds account for nearly half of all STD diagnoses each year. Watching a lot of sexual content on TV and listening to sexually explicit music lyrics increase the chances that a teen will have sex at an earlier age. At a wedding reception in Enugu ten years ago, the new bride, a young female medical doctor was asked her greatest wish in marriage and she answered : ‘having children and having them all male’ Her disturbed uncle who gave her to the groom at the altar asked her,’what’s wrong with having a female child, you are female and so also your mother and sisters’. She sighed before she answered,” it’s difficult being a female child and it’s difficult rearing them.’ She turned and looked at her shocked mother and continued: “  I saw the worry on her face each time our menstrual periods delay. She made us her daughters show her the pad of our menstrual flow every time in the month. We showed her the blood-stained pad every day as young adults until we became completely independent. Some nights, I saw her sneak into the girls’ room to check on us, searching through our things as she walked on tip-toes. I saw the worry on her face each time things didn’t go well with any of us her daughters. But I also realised that she didn’t feel the same way about her boys. When I asked her once, she said.’those are men, women will serve them’. I knew much is expected of a girl-child. I’m a busy person. I may not have the time to follow up on daughters if I have them. It’s difficult being female. It’s such a burden. So, I would rather have only boys. “That is just a tip of it. Girls are mainly seen by guys as sex toys. As teenagers, you have to worry about guys grabbing you or touching you and that’s really nauseating most times. And I didn’t like the way my brothers handled their girlfriends. I don’t want a girl child. Men see women as objects of sexual gratification and it is very wrong.” Carol eventually had her three children, all boys through in vitro. She had them carefully selected, had them fertilised outside with her husband’s sperm before inseminating them inside her womb. It was a costly method but she could afford that. At a women fellowship forum in a popular pentecostal Church in Lagos, a woman lamented the challenges of training her three female children. As she testified and thanked God that at last all her three daughters had gotten married, she shared her story. “It is not easy but God saw us through. It is these challenges that brought me to church. Academically, my daughters had no problem because they always passed their exams. While sitting for JAMB, my daughters under the guise of attending JAMB lessons were using the opportunity to attend parties and visit their male friends. They were day students and were attending from home. So, studying for JAMB was an opportunity for them to visit places they were not allowed to visit and do things that ordinarily, my husband and I would not tolerate. “My husband eventually ended up allowing my daughters to bring home the men they were dating so we would follow them up and know who to blame when things go wrong. My first daughter eventually got impregnated by the man she brought home and introduced to us and we had him marry her. That was how the three of them ended up marrying their boyfriends. Two are doing well in their relationship but one of my daughters is really in a bad bad marriage that we are praying that God turns things around.” Sex and the man Last year, a law-maker in the House of Assembly was  the talk-of-town among his people over his sexual scandals lately. The lawmaker was allegedly pictured on Valentine’s Day with two  runs girls  and the source said he has been in the act of frolicking with these girls and often times assaults his wife whenever she confronted him The wife of this lawmaker at a time threatened to expose the sexual escapades of her husband with young girls in town but before she could actualise her threats, online media were agog with pictures of the lawmaker celebrating the year’s Valentine’s Day with some teenage girls. Mr Laurence Uchendu, school teacher said the trend in is becoming institutionalized. “All men think about when they look at a woman is her body and sex. The ladies take advantage of the hunger in men’s eyes and seduce them. Even a little girl knows she looks attractive when she is wearing a new dress or a beautiful hair. She’d start shaking her tiny waist to attract attention. I remember having to shave my little daughter’s new braids last Xmas and also stopped my daughters from braiding their hair. “But looking at things critically, I think it’s all in the hormones.  If you are a teenager, you are no stranger to the power of hormones.  As a Biology teacher, I know that starting from as early as age 7 and 8, the body begins to produce the hormones that are responsible for the changes of puberty. “Teenage hormones are the chemicals that cause the physical growth and sexual development that will carry you through your teens and into adulthood. As these substances take hold of your body, you’ll notice that your emotions, moods and sexual feelings are much stronger. “Hormones affect your moods, emotions and impulses as well as your body. A lot of the mood swings that teens experience are caused by fluctuations in estrogen, progesterone and testosterone — the sex hormones. These same hormones will also affect the way you think about dating and sex. Teens become much more interested in sex, sometimes to the point of obsession. You may find yourself attracted to other people in your peer group, even if you never dreamed that you’d think of them in a sexual way. “It’s hard to feel that your body and mind are being controlled by the forces of nature instead of your own decisions. A lot of teens feel that the changes they’re experiencing are weird, freakish or unnatural, but in fact, almost everything that you go through during adolescence is a normal part of your development. Chances are that if you’ve experienced a new urge or experimented with different behaviours, at least one adult in your life has been through the same thing”. Looking at the situation, an experienced male journalist said that the essence of living is all about sex. “You cannot avoid that talk. You have sex to have children. And soon, the children grow up and talk about meeting guys and  babes  because they too want to marry. And they start talking about sex. A naked man does not attract attention but a woman in bikini would attract a thousand looks. “Men go to wars over women and if you want to see a man’s greatest anger, go for his wife. There is something in a man that makes him want to kill and he would actually kill if you tamper with his woman. I was in Gambia for a programme and saw all kinds of women from Europe, old, middle-aged and not so young who came all the way to Gambia to look for younger men to catch fun with. “You may call that the not too serious thing but that is what keeps the world moving. The world is all about sex and love and that’s what makes the world go round. Whenever you see a lot of guys looking at one direction, there is a girl there attracting attention. A mighty man is reduced to nothing because of sex. Look at the story of Samson and Delilah and see how Delilah barbed Samson’s hair.” Oftentimes, we hear old men call little girls wives. And ‘uncles’ ask little girls to come and sit on their laps. How many times have you heard your male visitors ask after your daughter with a leer? “Oh is that Toyin? She has grown so much and beautiful, ehh? What class are you now? That means that very soon, the suitors will start coming”, and he’s probably referring to a nine-year-old girl who just entered secondary school. Why women fall in love easily Somebody wanted to know why girls often fall in love and are too emotional in relationships that are meant to be just for fun and sex. The nature of the girl child is emotional right from birth. She takes matters of the heart so serious. As a child, parents buy her dolls and in these days of Barbie dolls, she learns to cuddle things, wash theirs clothes, bath her and she generally gets emotional to her. She grows up that way learning to cuddle and be cuddled. She wants her things for herself. She wants wants her man to be exclusive. She knows she would one day marry and begin to rear children. Growing up, she often hears men calling her ‘wife’ and pretty even men that are old enough to be her grandfather. She grows up knowing she has a huge responsibility of being a wife, mother and home maker. “The sex matter has gotten out of hand,” says Tunmise, a legal practitioner.”The churches are not helpful. The church as a moulder of character and good behaviour has collapsed. Stories abound of pastors who ended up impregnating young girls who went to them for counseling and character molding. We all read the story of a  53-year-old pastor who reportedly impregnated 20 members of congregation claiming the Holy Spirit ordered him to have sex with them. The pastor was arrested for abusing the young girls and women at his  Vineyard Ministry of the Holy Trinity. The pastor’s abusive behaviour was eventually reported to the police by his estranged wife who grew tired of his adulterous behaviour after he reportedly impregnated her young niece. You can imagine that kind of situation. Going to a church to seek a solution has become a problem. If the pastor doesn’t defraud you, he will sleep with your wife or impregnate your daughter. Pastors don’t preach holiness anymore. “ Sex and the scandal in the Church Taking a cursory look at the sex-drenched society , Pastor Adeleke Adesheri said the development is not new. “The unregenerate does not give a damn about what he does and it has been like that for centuries. Sex is on his mind whenever he sees a female but this is not the same for a regenerated man. The Bible says don’t lust after her beauty and a man who looks at a woman lustfully has already committed adultery. These days, women sleep next to their husbands using sex toys while men masturbate beside their wives. And God says he will judge adulterers Himself”. In one of his teachings, Pastor Chris Oyakhilome of Christ Embassy took on the issue of masturbation saying it is not sin. Severally, the pastor reiterated his stand on that issue thereby breeding confusion in the Christendom. He also said the issue should not be regarded as his personal opinion but as a resolution from the Bible concerning it. Pastor Chris, as he is popularly called, while reacting to more questions from members of the public who seemed to be confused about his teaching that masturbation is not a sin had said the act of masturbation in itself is not a sin against God but that Satan uses it to oppress people of God making them feel ineffective and inefficient in the things of God. He also said God is not offended by the practice but by any habit that takes hold of one’s mind. But  general overseer of the Redeemed Christian Church of Nigeria, Pastor E. A. Adeboye soon  took a swipe at him saying  he was shocked at the revelation by Pastor Chris Oyakhilome of the Believers Love World, a.k.a. Christ Embassy, that masturbation was not a sin but a habit. Pastor Adeboye while addressing the ministers and workers of the church in Jos, north central Nigeria had said: “The pastor of Christ Embassy was quoted by the press as saying there is nothing wrong with masturbation. I want to tell you that everything is wrong with masturbation, it is a sin against God and against human nature. Anybody that practices it will go to hell and it is a bad habit you must not get involved as a Christian or as a pastor or worker in the Redeemed Christian Church of God! “It is a sin against God and your body is the temple of Holy Spirit. Masturbating is a way of defiling the body (1 Cor. 3:16-18).” He discouraged the members from such doctrine while admonishing them to be fervent with God and not to be carried away by every wind of doctrine. Pastor Oyakhilome had said: “No matter how wrong you think this is in your mind, get this straight, in itself, it is not a sin against God. Satan uses it to oppress people of God, “making them feel ineffective and inefficient in the things of God.” He said for Christianity as a religion, this habit has nothing to do with God but a lot to do with the body of the person practicing it. As expected of controversies, this generated mixed opinions with some supporting the controversial preacher’s position on the matter, while others think the pastor is wrong. Sex and the scandal are one thing the church does not want to address. The church is  living in denial and covering up the crap going on in the church. Today’s church does not have the answers to the moral questions. Indeed, the church has become part of the problem. More scandals in the church It is not only Pastor Oyakhilome that had a controversy over his sexual behaviour. Sometime ago, a lady named Ese took to the social media with an allegation of her sexual relationship with a pastor of a popular pentecostal Church  based in Abuja. After making her serious allegation, nothing was said about the pastor’s side of the story. Many felt she said the truth in her allegations. But there is indeed a  lot wrong with the church  in Nigeria today. Carnality had made the church its capital city. Pentecostal pastors compete with each other to accumulate wealth from the tithes and offering of their members who are being desperately exploited in many ways including making bogus claims about faith healing, paying dodgy characters to fake miracles on stage, making  fuzzy pronouncements which they call prophecies, giving patients false reassurances and encouraging them to stop taking their medications with devastating consequences. There is no end to what a twenty-first century pastor would do. Pastors have god-like statures and a cult-like following, which can overwhelm their naive members; and this often stops members from speaking out against sexual or psychological abuse. The story is not different in conventional churches like the Catholic church where some priests sexually abuse seminarians and church members just like in other orthodox churches. Indeed, sex is what makes today’s society go around.


LESSON: How Enugu boy kidnapped his uncle



•Kidnap suspects, Chinonso, Chukwudi and Collins
•Kidnap suspects, Chinonso, Chukwudi and Collins
On Saturday April 2, 2016, four armed men stormed the country home of a Liverpool-based octogenarian, Chief Edwin Chime, at Obinagu Town in Udi area of Enugu State and abducted him. •Kidnap suspects, Chinonso, Chukwudi and Collins The gunmen, who were armed with three locally made guns, whisked him away in an Audi 80 saloon car to an unknown destination. Twenty-four hours after his abduction, his kidnappers, contacted his wife and demanded a N200 million ransom. The amount was subsequently reduced to N500, 000 and the 92-year-old man was released, 48 hours after it was paid to the kidnappers. Miffed by the news of the octogenarian, who is based at the United Kingdom, the Inspector General of Police, Solomon Arase,  was said to have  reportedly  deployed operatives of his Special Intelligence Response Team, SIRT, to Enugu State to assist the State Commissioner of Police,  Ekechukwu Nwodibo,  in tracking  down the kidnappers. Crime Guard gathered that the SIRT operatives, on arriving Enugu State, went after users of  the mobile phone  which  was used for in the ransom  negotiation and they ended up apprehending  three of the suspects, including one of the octogenarian’s nephews , who organized the kidnap. Sources disclosed that the suspects, identified as, Chinonso Onyebuchi, Chukwudi Azemenei and Collins Chime, were arrested separately by the operatives at Nnsuka, Enugu and Udi areas of the State.  Onyebuchi, who is 28 years old, was described as the leader of the gang and ransom  negotiator, Azemene, 22,  was said to be the one who picked  the ransom from the drop point, while Chime, 20, provided information and initiated the kidnap. A source, who spoke to Vanguard on the condition of anonymity, disclosed that the three suspects were arrested less than eight hours after they released their victim, and the sum of N170, 000 was recovered from them. The source added that one other member of the gang, identified as Ifeanyi is still at large. When Vanguard interviewed the suspects, Chime disclosed that his uncle’s refusal to give him money to start off a business, was the reason he gave him out to kidnappers.  Chime explained that the victim is his father’s elder brother and he approached him in January 2016, to give him some money but he did not. “My uncle is based in Liverpool, United Kingdom. He came home in December for the holidays and I approached him and told him that I needed money to start a small business.  He gave me N5,000 to go back to Lagos and join my cousins who are hustling there.  I took the money but I  wasn’t happy with what he told me because I wanted to go the university and I needed   a small business to support myself while in school but my uncle didn’t reason with me.  Last month I was at  Four Conner  in Enugu to see one of my friends known as Coutonu, but while I met him, one of his friends, Chinonso showed up and while we discussed he told me that he was into kidnapping and he would like to recruit me  if I could get him people to kidnap  for ransom.  Because of the money I was looking for I accepted his offer and told him that there was a woman in my town in Udi, known as Odele, whose children were very rich and my Uncle who just returned from the Uk. Chinonso told me not to worry that he was going to take care of the business.  Four days after our first meeting, Chinonso met me in Udi and he came along with Chukwudi and one Ifeanyi. They also brought an Audi car.  I don’t know how they got the car. “We proceeded first to Odele’s house and we didn’t find the woman in the house, from there we went   to my Uncle’s house and we abducted him.  He was taken to Chinonso village in Obiagu Town in Awgu Local Government Area of Enugu State. I didn’t go with them the first day, but I joined them later the next day. I was the one who fed my uncle but I was putting on a mask so he could not see my face. We treated him fine. “We also bought him his drugs.  Chinonso was the one doing the negotiation and when the ransom was paid, Chukwudi picked it up at Four Conner Junction and I was given N50, 000 as my share.  Chinonso, said that I was a small boy and new in the business and that was why he gave me that amount.  I had spent just N5,000 from the money when the police came and arrested me. I feel very bad, getting myself into this. I wish my uncle would forgive me,“ he pleaded Chinonso, told Crime Guard that this was his first kidnapping operation.  He explained that he did car snatching but he decided to venture into kidnapping because he learnt it was less risky. “I am a native of Obiagwu in Agwu Local Government area of Enugu State.  This is my first kidnapping operation.  I ventured into it because Collins told me he had rich people who could get us good money. I met Collins Last month, through one of my friends know has Coutonu. He told me that Collins was his boy and he normally assist him to convey stolen cars to the destination he wanted.   Collins on his part told me that after they had snatched a vehicle, they would tie the owner of the vehicle and dump him in a bush and would release him when they are successful with the crossing of the vehicle. Then he told that there was a rich woman in his area and one of his uncles that his based in the Uk  and he would want us to kidnap them and raise some money. “I contacted Chukwudi, he is my classmate in secondary school and he gave me a number of a guy, Ifeanyi, whom he met  at the Ikoyi  Prisons in Lagos State. When I met Ifeanyi, he suggested we got a car for the job and we went to Umunede in Delta State and we snatched the Audi saloon car from  the owner.  We drove down to  Udi, we didn’t meet our target at the first place he took us to but we kidnapped a man at the second house we went to.  The man was kept in my family house in Awgu and  when  the ransom was paid I got N112000 as my share and I spent all of it on drinks and women. I also lodged in a hotel before I was arrested. “ The Enugu State,  Commissioner of Police, who paraded the suspects before newsmen said the arrest of the suspected kidnappers was made through a careful operation following a tip-off by  some public spirited individuals in the state. Nwodibo noted that two notorious gangs of kidnappers were rounded up by the police, explaining that the  first syndicate led by Etim Amos of Abiakpo Ibo Road, Ikot Ekpene was behind the kidnapping of Mr John Abugu at GRA, Enugu; Mrs. Jane Ekweremadu and Mr Brooks Okwara at Agric Bank Junction, Independence Layout Enugu as well as Mrs Sandra Onu at New Haven, Enugu. .


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